Naija Values questionable

To be cqndidI ront tink I wqnt to femain in this country. Its tily hard to succeed here especially when ur stipp discovering yourself.
So recently, the news was filled with the story of how a bread seller became a model overnyt. When I hrd her story all I could say waw grace qt wotk and believe me, God's is unexplainable.
What has however irritated me abt it all is d hype nd noise frome the media. Believe me she is all over. I font hqve anytin to sqy abt her petson cus i dunno her, she wasnt overpy prepared for smipe of gortune, shes nt overly fine nd al........but she's got app these wonderfup endorsements that models with years nd decades of experience ront have yet.

Lets vompare this public recogntion with that of Opfeyemi Dada (I hope thats his name)- the 5.0 Psychology graduate from Unilqg. in the schools 54 years of existence nobody has ever set that record; even in the whole of Nigeria. But what was done to appreciqte this greqt feat, he was given 500000 by an awaaard sponsor then mtn gave gim iphone qnd free airtime.............what does that tepp us abt naija. Little wonder why great minds are leaving the country to work where their iq will be celebrated and appreciated.. This guy has not gotten a single endoresement from anybd in the centre of excellence/fountain of knowledge(Ekiti-where he hails from/the giant of Qgricq( his home country).....smh.......aoo sas

I and this my relationship matter

So I saw this post somewhere and I thought to share here. It bothers on succesful relationship after wedding.
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WHAT A MOTHER TOLD HER SON A DAY BEFORE HIS WEDDING Mummy’s boy, you are now a man. Tomorrow you will have a new mother, a new cook and a new person to share all your secrets with. It will no longer be me but her. Love your new mum even more than you love me. Before you walk into her arms forever, let me give you some words to guide you. There was a day I was arguing with your father. We were screaming, Tempers were high. I was angry and He was angry. Then I called him an idiot! He was shocked, He looked at me asking how dare I call him that, Immediately started calling him idiot, fool, stupid, crazy, I called him all sort of name. Guess what he did? He didn’t raise his hands to hit me. He just walked away, banging the door as he went out. My Son, If your father had hit me and destroyed my eyes, how will you feel sitting here with me today? How will you regard him as your father? Would you have been proud of him or would you be blaming me for calling him names? Never hit your wife! No matter the provocation just walk away and things will be normal. Whenever she offends you, think of this story I just told you, it could have been your mum! Before I forget, after he left, I was filled with guilt. We slept on same bed that night and I went to him the next day. I pleaded with him, I did all I could to show am sorry and he forgave me. That day I cooked his favourite food, yes you know he loves Pounded yam & Vegetable soup right? After that day, I never called him names, my respect for him was ten times stronger. There is something very important you must always do, my son listen very carefully, defend your wife. When she is under pressure, stand by her. If your friends hates her, it is your duty to make them see her as a Queen. Your Uncle, I mean Uncle (Name) , never liked me. But Ur father was always supportive until his perception changed. There was a day your Father was going to host the owner of his company and friends. They were three of them. That day I was in the kitchen cooking for them and your father went to buy drinks. When the table was set and food was served. Everyone started eating. Then I remembered I did not add salt in the food. I was embarrassed. Your father tasted the food and looked at me. He immediately turned to the guests. He told them that he instructed his wife last month not to add salt whenever she is cooking because of some problem with his body. He said it in a funny way and everyone laughed! The guests understood and he asked me to bring salt and everyone added according to their taste. He managed to eat the food without salt. After the guest left, he went on his knees and asked God to forgive him for lying. Your wife is like a baby, sometimes she don’t know what to say or do. Stand up and speak for her! Now let me talk to you about Sex. You see Sex is a wonderful thing. Do not be surprised if your wife enjoy and need Sex more than you do. There were days, I needed Sex more than your father and there were days he needed it more than me but the important thing is to always try to satisfy the other when they need you. Don’t always think of your self. There was a time things were hard and I needed to do two jobs to support your father. One night I was so tired. When I got to bed he was in the mood. He try to make love to me and I didn’t refuse him. I was tired but I felt I needed to be there when he need me. When he tried undressing me, he saw my look and he stopped. He asked what was wrong and I said nothing. But he understand me better. He stopped and then started telling me stories until I fell asleep. My son, Sex is best enjoyed when the two parties are physically and mentally ready for it. Sometimes, read your wife and understand her. Make it a habit to go anywhere with your wife. Beside your job, move around with her. If anyone invite you to his house and told you not to come with your wife then be very careful. Use wisdom. I know you love mummy… I know you tell me all your problems. But now things will be different. Let your wife be the first to know before me. Let her be the first to see before me. When you have problems with her don’t run to me immediately. Wait for a day to pass and then talk to her about it. Pray about it. Report her to nobody but talk issues out within yourself. Finally, don’t forget to come and visit me with your wife every month! I know you will have a happy home. You will always be mummy’s boy. God will bless Ur home. Pls don't forget God, pray & seek His assistance always.. Why not share this post? It May Strengthen Someone Relationship/Marriage! Kindly share it with your Brothers and Sisters.  Gen 2:18 And the LORD God said, It isnot good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.  A wrong marriage decision can lead to HELL, be wise & have a good morning" -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- We are learning :D

Happy new year Psalms

Wow! I actually forgot this blog even existed until I had a little reminder. My last post was in October and now a new year has began; what can I say.......GOD has been faithful.

I have an inner witness that 2016 is pregnant with glad tidings for me and so I should endeavor not to lose focus. Yea focus! this is one word/phrase God has been hammering on me. Focus and Pride likewise; in the last 2 months I have been taught and I have learnt to deal with my pride especially in marriage. The funny part is that I never knew that I had been exhibiting its character traits, thank God for His Holy Spirit in me that has guided, taught and ministered to me in/to wisdom. All thanks to Him, today I am a different and better person; some of my actions and in-actions these days even amaze me. But for the Holy Spirit, I will still be reacting to many situations in a particular manner; today, I find myself not reacting not because I can't (in flesh) but because I can't (because that would be disobedience to the Holy Spirit). I pray for all of my expectations for 2016 to come to fulfillment, I also pray for a successful/fruitful/fulfilling/purposeful/result-yielding 2016 because to be candid God's promises for me in 2016 are beyond me. I get scared because I just wonder how they will come to pass, not because they are impossible with God (far from it), but because they are impossible with just me as an individual. It is so overwhelming that I wonder what will happen if they don't materialise (God forbid), I don't even have plan B because all my entirety is into my conceived plans and I don't pray to go into depression. Spoke with people and they reassured me that God's plans are ALWAYS beyond us, as a matter of fact that is a feature of His plans for us, but I keep telling them that these my plans for 2016 are way way beyond me; and that the success of these plans determine the success of subsequent years( at least for the next 5 years). That I may know that it was indeed God that spoke to me I need my 2016 fulfilled, because as at now my life hinges on it. I can't even think of a plan B( my spirit won't even let me) because that is not faith.

Now to the main reason why I came here. You know I have always been feeling like I am not interested in marriage, well now, I sense it strongly in me that God has ordained marriage for me and you can imagine that HE is really preparing me for success and prosperity in it, both as a wife (in particular) and as a mother. In the course of the preparation (the preparation is still on o, I am still very much a work-in-progress), He made me realise that I was actually scared of submitting to my spouse and that has resulted in me being unnecessarily proud to prospects (loool, suitors i mean). I had always felt like no man could love me enough and so there was no point in giving them a try (at a point I was really planning to run far from home because they were all bugging me that they wanted to meet my fiance and that they wanted him to be a part of the family from now, little did they know that I wasn't even interested in all that; I think my sisters and even my bro's wife noticed my disinterest and started trying in their own little way to re-orientate me).

                                                                                well...

My spouse is to love me just like Christ loved the church (unconditionally), and I wonder how many guys really have this understanding ( Eph 5:25) and will follow through. With this I knew that I could never settle for an unbeliever; I have some really nice unbelieving friends that at a point I just had to distant myself from them. I knew that if our friendship continued at that pace it would have gotten worse/out of hand and I don't want my heart to be broken, likewise I don't want to break any guy's heart, besides it will only be wickedness for me to lead him on when I know that I won't marry him. (sometimes I am even tempted to say yes when I clearly know that we would have to separate in the long run because the society has made being "single" at a 18+ a disease).

But how many believers(men) really have this understanding. A lot of them just expect a woman to submit herself to her husband because the bible has commanded it, while they don't know/accept the measure to which they are to love their wives.
I was talking to one of my Egbons and he told me that he is to love his wife unconditionally; not because she deserves it, not because she is even a good wife, not because she asks for it, not because he is a lovey-dovey, not because he is a pastor, not because of anything at all but because the bible commanded it. He is going to love his wife in her bad character, her good character, her mood swings, her naughtiness, in her nobility, and in every character whatsoever; all he asks for is grace and that grace he strongly believes is already available to him, he just has to work/walk in it.
Omo I was thrilled! My thought was " why is it not me you are marrying na, why is it my sis, Okunrin gidi shi wa, thank God".

Exactly what he said is the definition of unconditional love and that is how every man is supposed to love his wife. The church did not deserve the love Jesus had for them, they didn't even submit themselves to Jesus, they didn't even appreciate Jesus, but all these didn't deter Jesus from sacrificing himself because indeed He loved us first; likewise every man should love his wife unconditionally first and not expect/demand submission first.
Personally, God has dealt with me on this issue of submission, like I said earlier He has been preparing me and now I know what is expected from me as a wife( any counter action will be disobedience) and so my fear now became "fine, in obedience to You I will submit myself to him completely, however will he appreciate my submission, will he not think me stupid/mumuish, will he not become proud himself, will he not trample on my humility". My thoughts became so manipulated that I started telling myself marriage was not worth it, it was not compulsory, besides none of the guys I knew at that point could love me unconditionally except of course a new guy came on board and I can't marry myself despite the fact that I am tending towards being self-sufficient and not needing anything from anybody.
Just as the preparatory class started, I sensed God telling me in my spirit, that He is giving me His son for a husband and I am to respect, value (appreciate) and **** him (I cant remember the 3rd one, I wrote it down somewhere sha).
                                     "these revelations and distortions came on board  when I was reading the book of Genesis".
I remember that time, I was like eeh this one You are saying "I must respect, appreciate him", what kind of man are You bringing my way? hope he is not going to be my age mate or even younger than me, hope he is not going to be poor, hope he is dark, hope he has good diction, hope he will madly be in love with me, hope he is tall, hope he is going to be this and that (before, I used to tell myself that I could only respect somebody about 5 years older than me). For me respect was in age/status/ stature occasionally.
Really I thank God for His mercy. Now that I think/look back, I wonder at how shallow minded I was then. Where is the place of age, height, complexion, stature, status, whatsoever in God's plan? God's plan is always the best for us and the enemy only manipulates our thoughts so that we can miss out on the blessings of God for us.

Yes, the enemy manipulates our thoughts. I really think that that is his greatest weapon; for me manipulation of the mind is the fiery dart and the "devices" that the bible warns us against. A lot of believers have fallen because of these manipulations, because he (the enemy) knows he cant get us to do some things ordinarily, he simply manipulates our hearts/minds/thoughts until we begin to see wrong as right and don't even see the evil/ungodliness in some of our actions; this is exactly what he did to our first father and his wife( Adam & Eve), and though we are ignorant it, he is very much still in the business of manipulating minds so we can lose out of God's blessings. My point exactly, we cannot afford to continue to be ignorant of this device because it is killing us gently.
It is just very funny that after receiving God's blessings (in most cases directly), the enemy comes disguised in our heads and manipulates our thoughts out of those blessings. You really have to be on guard because even the big pastors have fallen prey of this tactic, may God help us all.


n.b- I don't know how frequent I will be here this year because this year is packed with blessings that will keep me busy with other things, So I will use this opportunity to say happy holidays thruout 2016, have a fulfilling year!

God bless*

Do they really hear HIS voice??

This fateful night, I am actually typing this post with my left hand while eating 'Swallow' with my right hand; it is just very important that I do this before I forget.

Now I'm particular about young Christians (believers). Do they really hear a voice or do they just gamble and settle with the nice lady that spiritualises it and says "Okay, let Baba have HIS way.

I have heard stories of young men walking up to choice ladies ( truth to be told, the men  already admire these ladies before they "hear this voice"), telling them 'God revealed/said/told me that you are my wife'. Some of them end up marrying these women, while others don't because of one thing or the other, " I just know that God is not a Son of man that HE should repent".

I remember a certain vibrant, young believer that spoke to like three ladies before he married his wife just because he put the cart before the horse "he was looking/searching for a spouse instead of being totally sold out; I like to think that God interrupts men to start a relationship and get married not men deciding to one their own. At a point, I lost respect for the young man cause I saw him as a hustler; to me he was hustling for a wife.
I heard of a guy recently: this guy claims God told him that a particular sister is his wife. He went to meet the sister and the sister rejected his proposal; he kept at it until he got tired and moved on. Today he is in a relationship with another sister who he says he is not convinced about, and I'm wondering: if he was not convinced, then why did he start the relationship, what did he even tell the sister, did he lie to her, is he so desperate to have a spouse, what has happened to his faith, ...?

I think a lot of believers forget that the flesh also speaks and that it is daily struggle to suppress the flesh; I think we imagine that flesh is dead forever by works; forgetting that we are still to constantly beat our flesh under subjection.

Let me end this post with what the Holy Spirit taught me about a portion of Genesis.
1. Adam was very engrossed with God's work- He was diligent about his calling/ fulfilling purpose that he didn't even miss a fly.
2. God was the one that said it was not good for Adam to be alone- Adam never complained, I doubt if He ever desired it. It was God in the beauty and perfection of HIS creation and because of HIS master-plan that HE said it was not good for Adam to be alone and then HE caused Adam to sleep deep and took out of him to create the she-male and brought her to him. Many married men are still supposed to be single alas they have rushed to get married.

Seriously, it is not in the position of men to be looking for spouses. Tbh, if according to HIS plan and purpose for your life you are supposed to get married then you can be certain that the Alpha and Omega has fashioned her out for you already and will surely bring her to you, your only responsibility is to be sensitive to the Holy Spirit so you can discern when you see/meet her. Lets never ever make 'getting married' a goal/vision + it is not even compulsory. While I'm not certain because I've not confirmed yet, I sometimes feel like never getting married and believe you me "I will do excellently fine".

God didnt tell Adam that Eve was his wife, HE only brought her to him and Adam discerned because of his constant fellowship with God. In the same vein, HE will surely bring your wife to you just that i doubt He will say 'categorically' that she is your wife.

Just submit yourself to the leading of the Holy Spirit.

Out of context but I still wanna share: It was my personal fear but I strongly feel that many believers fear it too, that GOD will give them a woman/man who doesn't meet their taste, who they won't be proud of, who they will find it difficult to love but I tell you that these are just gimmicks of the enemy.

The scriptures say " if ye who are... know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your father in heaven...". The woman God will bring to you is and will definitely be the best because the Almighty knew you before you were formed and has also fashioned a suitable help-meet for you; and her helping you to fulfill purpose ni koko ninu oro.  
                                     "How many believers really know their purpose"??

The second thing is that God's gifts are not for unbroken/unbended people. It is a pity that there are many unbroken vibrant church workers. If you are not broken, you can hardly appreciate God's gift and treat her like the eyinojuoluwa that she is.

n.b * I concluded the post with my two hands after eating*

Words on my lips currently/ How I feel right now

My faithful Father, enduring Friend
Your tender mercy's like a river with no end
It overwhelms me, covers my sin
Each time I come into Your presence
I stand in wonder once again

Your grace still amazes me
Your love is still a mystery
Each day I fall on my knees
Your grace still amazes me
'Cause Your grace still amazes me

Oh, patient Saviour, You make me whole
You are the Author and the Healer of my soul
What can I give You, Lord, what can I say
I know there's no way to repay You
Only to offer You my praise

It's deeper, it's wider
It's stronger, it's higher
It's deeper it's wider
It's stronger, it's higher than anything my eyes can see

Myles Munroe - The Power Of Purpose (Azusa '90) - Full Video

     

Finally I have a mentor and you wont hear word again. Dr. Myles Munroe lives on!!!!!! Find your purpose



I remember I have been kinda hungry for purpose identification for about a year now and I know now that God has only been preparing me to learn now........I'm learning so much now and I feel like woah I'm favored! well actually I am. I am the one daughter that He is really interested in.

Happy Independence God's Choice Country

   Happy Independence to Nigeria!!!

Who is Nigeria to me? Nigeria is a fruitful, fertile and rich land that has the capacity to flow with milk and honey. Nigeria is a great country, very prosperous and mightily blessed. Nigeria is our own Jerusalem; sometimes I feel even God is certifying Nigeria as the new covenanted Israel.

We clocked 55 years today and all I can say is "Thank you Lord". Inspite of all the enormous challenges that we have faced since 1960, we are still standing strong and together as a nation. I believe so much in this nation. I am one of the few people who have learnt to appreciate this nation. We need to stop saying things like; nothing works in this nation/ Nigeria is corruption nationalised/there is no hope for this nation etc.............

Nigeria is not for the government, it is for everyone that has a Nigerian citizenship. We can't keep being negative about the nation and expect her to move forward, we can't continue to act indifferently to matters arising in the nation, we cant continue to run away from her and expect things to get better.

I look at the number of people that have relocated from Nigeria and I feel bad. Imagine if all these gifted hands/minds were still in the country, we would be better than USA but no! they would rather make America work than strive to make Nigeria work.

I look at people that are looking for a way to leave and I am even sadder. Just because you have been unable to get a job after 1/2/3 years of graduation is not enough reason to decide to leave this country. So many Nigerians are willing to hustle anyhow abroad but are not willing to do the same here just because they feel they are entitled to a good life here. I tell you, there is no way I am deserting this nation; as a matter of fact, the only reason why I desire an international M.Sc is because I want to be well/better equipped  to add value to this nation. If only many people shared this idea with me, we would have been singing a better song.

My appeal this day is particularly to people who have left Nigeria to further their studies abroad, please come back home!! Nigeria cannot attain a meaningful height with the calibre of people in government currently. We the young ones need to come back home after getting more knowledge to unseat these people that know nothing if Nigeria will ever develop. We cant keep deserting our country and saying Nigeria holds no future for us; WE ARE THE FUTURE OF NIGERIA and only us can ensure this truth.

#Newsflash- Heaven has decreed Nigeria's development and prosperity, so if you choose to be a part of it- good for you and if otherwise- what can I say. God who planted you in this nation surely had a reason for doing so, you should at least be able to come up with a perfect explanation why you deserted it when you get to heaven (especially if you are a believer). I don't even see what people see in USA in particular other than better education, so much evil and vice is going on there that I cant even exhaust if I start mentioning.

I believe in this nation, I believe God will disgrace the enemies of this nation and I am convinced Nigeria is better than any other country.

                            "Nigeria's growth/development/improvement is heavily dependent on the mindset/attitude/determination/actions of her people...Start the change you desire in this nation.....be a change agent/catalyst"- Miibee
GOD BLESS NIGERIA!